Choices Beget Judgements, Which Again is a Choice!

“It is your choice to have sex outside marriage and if he chooses the same, do not call him a womanizer then. Because it is his right to make an opinion about it, it is his choice to call you whatever he wants”. And then it will be your choice to slap him and then again he can choose to harm you in whatever manner he wants to..but you are not allowed to freak out then, because it was your choice to have sex outside marriage.
Doesn’t this sounds like a confusing state of democracy, where everyone is fighting because he has a right to choose to hurt the other person and the other person has some freaking choice as well. My God—That ‘Vogue Woman empowerment video-My Choices’ has really managed to freakout my thoughts and has made me outscore even Kamal R Khan when it comes to absurdity. I am still figuring out what is Ms. Padukone and of course the director is trying to convey with the video, except for the word CHOICE. I watched the video thrice to make sure if I am not hearing anything wrong. On the first place why is it even potrayed as something related to “Woman Empowerment”? I did not find even a single sentence meant to preach woman empowerment. Please correct me if I am going wrong but seriously I can’t find anything empowering except for making choices, and not repenting.

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Barbarism Isn’t Uniquely Indian: Something BBC Badly Missed Out On!

Disclaimer: This is not meant to hurt anyone’s sentiments or to defend the convicts. The information is taken from various newspapers!

The BBC documentary  ‘India’s Daughter’ has invoked many agitated reactions. Every section of media is clear and loud about its point on banning the documentary. I have personally seen the documentary and didn’t really like it much. Yes it throws a good deal of light on what happened that night, what the convict has to say and how lawyers defended the convicts. I have already done a post on convict’s filth filled statement in the documentary. The views and rapist mentality can’t get any uglier! How the lawyers reacted and defended the victims even after being given the status of “Gods of Justice” they crossed all the lines of barbarism. However, lawyers’ statement is totally a different aspect, which is out of scope of this post for now.

Coming back to ‘India’s Daughter’-The Documentary. Leslee Udwin’s documentary claims to be a mirror of Indian men mentality. In the beginning, having just overlooked the documentary, I strongly resisted Government Of India’s stance of banning it. Yes, some of our silly politicians have defended this stance by citing stupid examples and giving some over-the-top statements. Like Mr. Home Minister said they banned the film because ” Mukesh Singh’s views is defaming the country”. This is incorrect! What ever he said was sheer nonsense. They say something one day and get away with it because, obviously, they have their political stature at their disposal. However, the documentary gives us some reasons to question its so called claimed objective of “Social Purpose”. I am not defending any side here , when I say that the documentary slandered only Indian men and not the rapists in general This raise questions on why the international media has not done something similar explaining rapes in many other countries, for let’s say ‘Social Purpose’?

Admit it or not but after the 16th December rape case, things have taken a face lift from nothing to something, in relation to dealing with rape cases in our country. Yes, this country has still witnessed multiple rape cases in post-nirbhaya period, which resulted from lack of implementation of investigative measures and the unsafe environments. The documentary portrayed Indian society as a perverted one and not the rapists as real criminals. Yes, it attacks Indian society on the face of it. Even after being a woman I am saying this because the documentary is not fair ( as it claims to be), because it no where shows the action taken by our society and its people after the incident happened. Doesn’t our reaction after the incident also showcase one part of how Indians are? It clearly mocked Indian law and out judicial process by not following the legal advice of not broadcasting the documentary before final verdict of Supreme court. The filmmaker has done a brilliant job in joining the pieces and portraying the picture well, but it just shows Indian share of savagery. Rapes happen everywhere and with the same brutality as in the Nirbhaya’s case ..sometimes even more. From California to Canada to Washington to UK, and everywhere else.

Facts about some rape victims: A Canadian girl was gang-raped in the bus in Glasgow, in front of all the passenger and photographed. She committed suicide after her photograph was spread throughout the internet. The convicts were as young as 13 year old. Then there was this case in California where victim was beaten , stripped, raped and photographed in public. To quote the statement I read somewhere about this ” Some took photographs of the scene and other laughed”. The other day I read in the newspaper about a college student who raped a woman by forcing a vacuum cleaner into a woman’s private parts. Then there was one man who raped a woman by forcing her to lie nude on the snow covered road. Can anyone tell me why most of the people still don’t know about it and the entire world is speaking of Nirbhaya? It is not that speaking the case is wrong, my point is that why these cases from the other side of world doesn’t go beyond local news channels and a few international newspapers? Can we just say, they were trying to be responsible about sensationalizing the issue on international front, just like GOI is doing?
Sexual violence against women is a worldwide issue and societies from all the countries are not doing enough to protect women across the world. Let’s not forget this when we agonize about rapes in India. The amendment in sexual violence laws after December 16 rape case has made victim’s statement enough for prosecution, which is a big advancement in itself. The case becomes a national news (sometimes international) as soon as it happens now, which doesn’t give perpetrators much room to escape. The number of cases being reported are still less, owing to the social stigma attached to it. But things are getting better–as the facts state. To the BBC, the question is if “Social Purpose” was so much necessary then why it didn’t release something similar on Rotherham case? Where nearly 1500 children were sexually assaulted. If the filmmaker and the news channel is so clear about the ‘Social Purpose’ then why did it stopped to showcase ‘society’s mirror’ in Rotherham case? And why didn’t they talked much about sexual abuses committed by T.V and radio host (Celebrity Big Brother fame)Jimmy Savile.
The content that documentary aired is not incorrect, it is just incomplete by showing one sided Indian part of brutality, which once again refrains us from thinking that sexual violence doesn’t stop by switching countries. Rapist mentality is not just Indian, it is even worst outside–as depicted by the examples stated above. And this won’t go with waving of a magic wand! Also, I think the filthy comments from convict doesn’t affect views of other men out there (if they are real men) and neither it adds to the same kind of thinkers. Besides it is very important to know the rapist mentaity as it might prove for addressing sexual violence issues in a better way.

I almost lived a movie…

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Though I never aspired to be an actress, but the idea of ‘living a movie for one day’ really stirs up my hidden acting talent ;). My city is witnessing continuous rains since 2 days. I love rains all the time except when it is accompanied by an extremely cold weather. Winters are beautiful but then the beauty decreases with your urgency to go to your office and that too early in the morning. I had one exam this Sunday at a place close to my native place. Amid all the rain and cold I had to start early in the morning. I reached there one and a half hour before time. It was absolutely cold, raining, foggy, hilly and aloof.

With my umbrella on, I went to the guard and asked to open the gate. With that evil grin he refused to open with an extremely poor logic of “security reasons”. Nobody was allowed to enter even the canteen for “security reasons”. From where in the world these guys bring such stupid reasons to fool students. Anyway!! With no other option left, I went back into the rain and cold with wet shoes. This place is on my way to home but I never happened to stop here and explore. So it was close to an alien land with fog all around and no other person to ask for help. I walked a bit and stood in a tiny electronics shop with hardly any light. My wet shoes and socks made me shiver like a person who has been given an electric shock! The shopkeeper suggested me to go to the “dhaba” and have some tea. After walking a little more, I found one air-conditioned tea shop—with tin roof, and dirty benches.

I had no other option—so I drank the tea and warmed up a bit. I left the place as soon as I could. I found a good looking, and cute restaurant built of wood. With a tinge of happiness I walked towards that…and to my dismay..it started snowing heavily!!! I love snow but not like this..it was killing my happiness then.

I entered and ordered for a bowl of soup. It took that waiter a half-an-hour to bring that soup. Meanwhile I opened by cold-ridden shoes. My feet was numb, unable to make any movement and almost dead.  I shouted for hot-water. The waiter came terrified as if his boss is angry for some reason and placed a glass of hot water on my table. I lifted the glass and as I walked towards the door…I realized that I am missing an amazing amazing scene. A heavy snow fall from the windowpane of a small hut restaurant!!

With all what was happening, I almost felt like I am living a movie!! I walked past the door and dropped that hot water on my feet. They were pretty much cold and demanded serious attention. I sat on the chair with folded feet and had my soup—watched the amazing view and lived an amazing day. I have seen snow for countless times but never realized its beauty.

But then…I had to leave the restaurant and go for my exam amid all the cold outside. We all know how exams have the real talent of screwing your happiness!!! 😦

P.S: Affection only grows as we move away from a thing, place or person!

Inside A Woman..

A woman’s mind, as men say, is the most intricate puzzle to solve. The ocean of thoughts and emotions are bit too much to comprehend. Their unprecedented bent towards emotional side of a situation or thing or a person is most of the time labeled as being ’emotional fools’ by their counterparts.


It has always been an unsolved mystery for me to understand people’s logic of connecting being emotional with being wretched. If a woman is high on emotion, does that mean she’s this wretched personality who goes into the hyper-state for no big reason? At least, men around me (except a few) make me feel like that.  I am a very emotional person, hands down, and I have no embarrassment in writing this. I feel heart-throbbing when I see unlucky souls sleeping on the countryside, I feel like crying when I am helpless in giving a helping hand to kids who can’t study, I feel like slapping that bastard who tries to make dirty moves on the girl standing by, …and I feel more humane doing these things. I mean Yes there are plenty of other things to feel more humane but if these are labeling me an “emotional fool” I am completely fine with the label.

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I’m The Hilly Girl…Hands Down!

I live in this beautiful, beautiful city. When I say beautiful, I mean it from B to L. It is actually more green and less black, unlike most of the cities in India. Plus monsoon plays its part in making the place breathtakingly beautiful.  I don’t have the most amazing life nor do I have the kind of life I always longed for or dreamt of. But still I am happy and believing, because I’m the love of some incredible people’s (my parents’) life, I have lovely friends to count on, I eat food three times a day, I have a comfortable bed to sleep, I have got a roof that protects me, I have a goal to achieve and a dream to look forward to. This gives me enough reasons to be happy.

 

 

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The Curious Case of Nosy Neighbors!

Hello bloggers!!! It took me a while to resurrect, but anyhow I am back—not with the BANG of course! But yes I am just back. It feels good to be here, great actually. And ‘feeling good’ is more than a reason to be somewhere.

However, unfortunately people around us take a bit long to understand this fact. That this ‘feel good’ factor is one imperative thing to do something or anything in life. We all have this (in) famous neighbor fraternity, who wants to keep a genuine check about all the important happenings in our lives. If someone from India is reading this, he might have understood what I am talking about. These neighbors are so incredibly concerned about our lives that they can miss a breath for all the gossips. The other day while travelling in a local city transport bus I overheard a conversation between a girl (G) and her neighbor (N).Yes, I knew about their being neighbors because of the so obvious and talkative N.

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She Finally Found Her Reader!

It’s been ages since I have read any book. I know I have bragged enough about my being busier than anyone else in this world.

She finally got her reader

My poor timings, poor time management, habit of procrastinating or whatever it may be! The thing is, I brought this book two months back and have just read a few first pages of it. Every morning I wake up, pray and dodge looking at this beautiful book. However, today I couldn’t manage to dodge, and ended up looking at her lying restlessly on my desk.

It happens every day. She looks at me with optimism, and hopes to grab all my attention. At night before my going to bed, she first lures me with the attractive title and bright cover, and when I still don’t give a damn, she pleads like anything. But today it was all different. I woke up and instantly my eyes struck hers and to my dismay today she had that attitude. That bold ‘oh get lost’ look which clearly said “If you don’t care, I don’t give a damn too, go wherever you want to but don’t dare to touch me”. And I was like —

Me: Oh girl.. hold on, are you the same sweet book?

She: Yeah! It is me. You got a problem with that?

Me: Wo Wo! Easy girl. I understand you’re angry, but that doesn’t mean you’ll give me this attitude and get along.

She: Don’t. Don’t even try and go there. You know what you’ve been doing since past two months. So you take it easy!

Me: Okay! Okay! I admit my mistake.

And I started walking towards her just to pick her up and go through a few more pages. But as I went close, she shouted out loud

She: NO…NO Don’t touch! Get awaaayyy.

I touched her with my finger on her trunk, pretending to tickle her. A one, A two, and Three…. And SHE SMILED! Yaaayyyyyyyyyy

It had been quite a long time and she genuinely needed a good amount of attention. I thought of giving her the same. In the meanwhile I noticed one thing more. We have this TED in our room and many times I have seen him looking at my beautiful book from the corner of his eyes. To my surprise, today I saw the sneak-peak from this end as well.

So to add fire to this cute love story, I played the cupid.

He found her and she finally got her READER. Is she blushing in his hands???? Really ???

P.S:  Books always added a life to me. Today I tried to give one the same! 🙂